{"id":71194,"date":"2020-08-31T09:51:48","date_gmt":"2020-08-31T13:51:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eventsource.ca\/blog\/?p=71194"},"modified":"2025-12-11T06:16:56","modified_gmt":"2025-12-11T11:16:56","slug":"keeping-the-family-on-the-same-page","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eventsource.ca\/blog\/keeping-the-family-on-the-same-page","title":{"rendered":"Keeping Every Side of the Family on the Same Page During the Wedding"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest, the best part of a wedding is having everyone you love in the same room \u2013 on the other hand, the worst part of a wedding might be having everyone you love in the same room. Unfortunately, while you may love everyone you invite to your wedding, there is always the possibility that they might not love each other. Whether your future in-laws don\u2019t get along with your parents, or you have a step-mom or dad situation to contend with, navigating family drama requires skill, patience and some solid boundaries.<\/p>

Here are some sure fire ways to make sure every side of the family is on the same page.<\/p>

Step 1 – Get on the same page yourselves: <\/strong>It is imperative that you and your fianc\u00e9 present a united front when dealing with potential wedding drama. Make a pact early on to not discuss your planning disagreements with your family, or share details that you don\u2019t both agree on. If you need help settling an argument, rely on a member of your bridal party you can trust to stay impartial.<\/p>

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Step 2 – Identify potential drama-makers: <\/strong>Is your sister mad that you\u2019re getting married first? Is your fianc\u00e9\u2019s dad\u2019s new girl-friend hated by your mother-in-law\u2019s family? Does the best-man like to get drunk and take his pants off? Identifying potential problems early on means that you can formulate a plan of attack on how to deal with them before they become a problem.<\/p>

Step 3 – Have the tough conversations:<\/strong> Once you have identified potential problem areas, it\u2019s now time to sit down with your family and have the tough conversations. For instance, if your parents are divorced and don\u2019t get along, explain to them that you will not tolerate any drama at the wedding and that they are expected to be respectful of each other. If your mother-in-law seems to think it is her wedding, explain to her that while you appreciate her opinion, ultimately all decisions will be yours.<\/p>

Step 4 – Set boundaries, enforce boundaries, rinse, repeat: <\/strong>Decide early on what you will and won\u2019t accept from your family members \u2013 then stick to it! Make a pact with your partner to help each other enforce your boundaries and make sure your families respect them. Boundaries are important, especially in families with strong personalities to keep everyone on the same page and not feeling left out.<\/p>

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