{"id":72057,"date":"2020-10-02T08:00:22","date_gmt":"2020-10-02T12:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eventsource.ca\/blog\/?p=72057"},"modified":"2020-10-02T08:24:14","modified_gmt":"2020-10-02T12:24:14","slug":"should-you-write-your-own-vows","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eventsource.ca\/blog\/should-you-write-your-own-vows","title":{"rendered":"Should You Write Your Own Vows?"},"content":{"rendered":"

While most wedding ceremonies are fairly similar \u2013 you know, the getting married part \u2013 there are of course, customizable elements within the ceremony that make each and everyone unique. One of the most commonly customized aspects of wedding ceremonies are the vows. Now, many couples opt to write their own rather than the \u2018repeat after me\u2019 vows in every romantic comedy you have ever seen.<\/p>\n

One of the biggest complaints that couples have about \u2018traditional vows\u2019 is that they sound incredibly old-fashioned. And indeed, they were written in the 16th century. Fortunately, many officiants<\/a> now offer a few vow selections that you can choose from that don\u2019t sound so\u2026stuffy.<\/p>\n

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If you and your fianc\u00e9 are thinking about writing your own vows, there are a few pros and cons you should consider first:<\/p>\n

Pro\u2026 Your vows will be unique<\/b><\/p>\n

Writing your own vows means everything is original, which means you can be as specific as you want. From the serious to the kind of silly \u2013 think \u2018I promise to always kill the spiders\u2019\u2013 these vows are 100% yours.<\/p>\n

Con\u2026 Your officiant may want approval:<\/b><\/p>\n

Especially if you’re marrying in a religious ceremony, many religious officials will give the thumbs down to couples writing their own vows. Others may allow them but ask that you include certain phrases or that they can have final approval.<\/p>\n

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Pro\u2026 People will listen:<\/b><\/p>\n

By the end of wedding season, many of guests may have heard the traditional vows a few times, and may use this as an opportunity to nod off and dream about cocktail hour. If you write your own vows however, they are more likely to pay attention, and bonus, you may even get a few heartfelt tears.<\/p>\n

Con\u2026 Your partner is just not into it:<\/b><\/p>\n

If your partner keeps putting off writing their vows while you have had yours done since the day you got engaged, they may be sending you a sign. Don\u2019t stress \u2013 offer to co-write vows together and keep them short and sweet so that you don\u2019t get overwhelmed.<\/p>\n

Pro\u2026 you can turn it into a pre-wedding date:<\/b><\/p>\n

While some people are open about their emotions, others\u2026are not – just like, some people are really great writers, while others\u2026 are not. As long as you are able to recognize which one you are, you\u2019ll be fine! Sit down with your partner and discuss your relationship, things that are important to you and then write them together. Doing this before the wedding will also remind you both of why you love each other in the first place!<\/p>\n

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