{"id":79838,"date":"2021-03-19T09:57:16","date_gmt":"2021-03-19T13:57:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eventsource.ca\/blog\/?p=79838"},"modified":"2025-12-11T06:06:05","modified_gmt":"2025-12-11T11:06:05","slug":"things-not-to-say-to-your-friend-before-they-get-married-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eventsource.ca\/blog\/things-not-to-say-to-your-friend-before-they-get-married-again","title":{"rendered":"Things NOT to Say to Your Friend Before They Get Married… Again"},"content":{"rendered":"

You just got the news that your friend is tying a knot for the second (or third) time. Nowadays, second marriages are becoming increasingly common, and even though it shouldn\u2019t be a big deal\u2026 it can be a tricky situation to navigate.<\/span><\/p>

Here are six things to avoid saying to your friend before their second marriage:<\/p>

1. Are you doing _______ this time?<\/h2>

Trust us, while preparing for their second, or even third wedding, your friend does not want to hear you ask about how this wedding will compare to the previous one. Especially if you\u2019re talking about the wedding with the spouse-to-be, you want to make sure that each part of this wedding is exciting, and not a reminder of the first wedding.<\/span><\/p>

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2. So soon?<\/h2>

Yes, getting married is a big deal. So, even if the ink is barely dry on their divorce papers, this can come across as insensitive. Remember, in Canada, you have to be separated for a year before a divorce can be official \u2013 so questioning the timing of your friends marriage can come across as insensitive. <\/span><\/p>

3. You\u2019re not having a big wedding right?<\/h2>

To make one thing clear \u2013 assuming that your friend is going to have a small wedding simply because they have been married before is insensitive. Since you likely don\u2019t know all the information about why their first marriage didn\u2019t work, you shouldn\u2019t offer an opinion on the size of their second. <\/span>
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<\/span>Suggesting that your friend doesn\u2019t deserve the wedding they want simply because it\u2019s their second wedding can come across as petty. <\/span><\/p>

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4. Oh, your first wedding was so _________:<\/h2>

Again, no one wants to play the comparison game when it comes to their second wedding. Trust us, your friend is aware that this is their second wedding, they do not need a constant reminder from you asking how this will compare to their first wedding. <\/span>
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<\/span>Even if their first wedding was awesome, you should still avoid pointing out that this is their second marriage. Instead try saying something along the lines of \u2018you have great taste, I\u2019m sure it will be awesome.\u2019<\/span><\/p>

5. Who\u2019s paying this time?<\/h2>

Even though most of us are aware enough not to ask how someone is paying for their wedding \u2013 somehow people forget their manners when it comes to second weddings. Today, there are no rules when it comes to who is paying for what for the wedding, so this question isn\u2019t great to ask. <\/span><\/p>

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