When it comes to putting together your guest list, you’ll have to think of which friends and family you’ll be inviting. Are any of your close family members children? Do your close friends have children as well? If there are some kids you’ll be inviting, does that mean you’ll be extending the invite to the kids of other guests as well? Here are some things you need to consider when it comes to inviting kids to your wedding.


They can be attention grabbers

One thing to keep in mind about kids is that they love to be the center of attention. Unlike your jealous cousin who is old enough to know she shouldn’t steal the spotlight on your big day – kids aren’t aware, or at the very least, they don’t care. So, before you invite kids to your wedding, remember that you might be including them in your first dance.

Inviting Kids

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They need special accommodations

Kids, while potentially adorable, will need special accommodations. They get bored easily, so you will need to make sure that there are plenty of activities for them to do during dinner. Also, keep in mind that you will need to ensure kids meals are available for any picky eaters.

Kids can play an important role in your wedding

If you are already parents, your kids will likely be playing a special role in your big day. If you’re not, but are close with nieces and nephews, or friends’ kids, you may want to have them take part in your ceremony as the ring bearer or flower girl.

It can be a case-by-case basis

It may surprise you to learn that a lot of people will enjoy a night away from their kids! So, depending on how well you know the kids, or even how old they are, you can evaluate the invites on a case-by-case basis.

…With those things in mind, here are three questions to ask yourself before inviting kids to your wedding:

Do you know the kids well?

If you have played a special role in the lives of your friend’s kids, then having them at your wedding will be something you will cherish forever. If however, you haven’t spent a lot of time with your friend’s kids, then feel free to leave them off the invite.

Are they well behaved?

Let’s be honest – kids can be a handful. So, if you know that your cousin’s kids always run at volume 11, it may be a good idea to reconsider the invite.

Do you want kids at your wedding?

This is the ultimate question. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and your friends and family will be understanding and respectful of your decision whether or not to invite children.