Weddings are a chance to dress up, eat well, and toast to love – but being a great guest takes more than just showing up. What should you wear? Can you bring a plus-one? Is it rude to leave after dinner? From dress codes to dinner exits, this is your no-stress guide to wedding guest etiquette – so you can enjoy the day and be remembered for all the right reasons.
Why Wedding Guest Etiquette Still Matters
Being invited to a wedding isn’t just about showing up for a good party. It’s about stepping into a milestone moment in someone else’s life. The couple has spent months (sometimes years) planning the perfect day.
When guests show up late, ignore the dress code, or bring uninvited dates, it can throw everything off. Good etiquette isn’t about being stiff or formal! It’s about being thoughtful, respectful, and fun to have around.
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7 Wedding Guest Do’s You Should Always Follow
1. RSVP on time
The simplest way to be a dream guest? Respond by the deadline. Couples need your answer to finalize seating, catering, and a hundred other details. If you can’t attend, let them know promptly — it’s just as important as saying yes.
2. Dress for the wedding – not just your closet
Check the invitation for a dress code. No guidance? Semi‑formal or cocktail attire is usually a safe choice. Avoid white (or anything close), overly casual wear (jeans, flip‑flops), or anything that steals the spotlight.
3. Arrive early (but not too early)
Aim for about 15 minutes before the ceremony. You’ll have time to find your seat, say hello, and settle in. Walking in mid‑vows is awkward for everyone – especially the couple.
4. Bring a gift – big or small
A gift shows appreciation. Whether you pick from the registry, give cash, or choose something thoughtful, aim to send or bring it within a few weeks of the big day.
5. Respect the seating plan
There’s a reason you’re at Table 9. Don’t swap seats unless there’s a real need. If you don’t know anyone nearby, treat it as an opportunity to meet someone new.
6. Put your phone away during the ceremony
Even if it’s not an “unplugged” event, resist the urge to text, scroll, or take photos. Be present! It’s one of the best gifts you can give. The wedding photographer will look after the pics.
7. Celebrate without overdoing it
Dance, laugh, and enjoy the open bar! Just keep it classy. A little restraint ensures you’ll be remembered for the right reasons.
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5 Wedding Guest Don’ts to Avoid at All Costs
1. Don’t wear white
Unless the couple has said otherwise, leave white (and ivory, cream, champagne) alone. Let the person in white be the centre of attention.
2. Don’t bring an uninvited plus-One
If your invitation is addressed to you only, it’s a solo invite. Guest lists are usually limited by budget or space, so check before assuming you can bring a date.
3. Don’t post without permission
Some couples prefer to keep their wedding offline. Ask before posting, and even if you have the green light, wait until they’ve shared their own photos first.
4. Don’t overdo the alcohol
Enjoy the drinks, but know your limits. A tipsy toast? Fine. Being that guest in every wedding story for years to come? Not ideal.
5. Don’t interrupt key moments
During vows, speeches, or the first dance, keep chatter and movement to a minimum. These are once‑in‑a‑lifetime moments! Don’t be the distraction.
Frequently Asked Questions
What’s the best dress code rule of thumb?
Can I leave after dinner?
Do I still give a gift if I travelled far?
Is it okay to post wedding photos?
What if I’m sick on the day?
Loved these tips or have your own etiquette question? Leave a comment below – we’d love to hear your stories or answer your tricky wedding-guest dilemmas
