When you start planning your wedding, you will also be thinking of who will be standing beside you on the big day – choosing a bridal party is a big decision and you want to make sure that you choose people who will support you and not cause any unwanted drama surrounding the wedding.

The biggest question that comes up when selecting your bridal party is whether or not you should ask your future sibling-in-laws to be a part of your bridal party. While there are no hard and fast rules surrounding this – there are a few considerations to be aware of.

When to Include Future Siblings

1. If your partner is including your siblings in their bridal party, you should consider including their siblings in yours. This way there are no hurt feelings and you have a chance to bond with your future siblings.

2. If you are really close with one sibling but not the others – you should consider asking all of the siblings to be a part of your bridal party. A lot of time, siblings take an ‘all or nothing’ approach to involvement. If you ask one and not the others, it could make things awkward for the sibling you did ask as well as your spouse-to-be.

3. If you need to fill out your bridal party, consider choosing your future sibling-in-laws. Rather than searching through your friends for potential bridal party members, ask your future siblings to get involved. This will give you a chance to bond and avoid having people in your wedding photos that you don’t talk to anymore.

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When Not to Include Future Siblings

1. If your partner has a big family… and you don’t, consider not asking your future siblings to be a part of your bridal party. Rather than having uneven sides or having too large of a bridal party, leave them out. You should explain to them that you want to keep your party small and that you didn’t want to include one of them and not the other.

2. If they’re going to cause drama, and you know that it will more of a headache to include them, then don’t. If they are major drama-lovers they will likely cause a scene, but let’s be honest, they were going to do that regardless. Remember, it’s your wedding and you don’t want to cause yourself more stress than you’re already dealing with.

Even if you decide not to include your future siblings in your bridal party, you can still include them in the wedding. Have them do a reading during the ceremony or, be your Master of Ceremonies. They will appreciate the thought and still be happy to be involved in your big day. Make sure you and your partner are aligned on how you will involve your siblings in your wedding so you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. Happy Planning!