Ah yes, the age old question – how do you know if your relationship is ready for marriage? If you ask your friends or relatives you will likely be met with the classic, ‘When you know, you know!’– which, is nice, but also not very helpful.
Anecdotally, people may joke that if you’ve started wearing your retainer to bed, or you’ve heard each other fart that it is time to book the venue – but in reality, there’s a bit more to it than that. Here are a few factors to help you figure out if you’re ready for marriage.
1. You’re happy with yourself
It sounds cliché but, you can’t be happy with someone else until you’re 100% happy with yourself. Marriage should be about bringing two lives together rather than patching two halves together.
2. You’re pretty sure there isn’t a better option
This feels like a no-brainer, but you’ve deleted your dating apps and profiles and are no longer flirty texting with that cutie from the gym.
3. Your bests and your mom are rooting for you
Your friends and family love your SO, but more importantly, they love how happy you are. Have honest conversations with them about any serious red flags they might have noticed and decide if these are legitimate concerns.
4. Mundane tasks make you feel like a power couple
Marriage is all about teamwork and creative problem-solving– so if meal planning and IKEA make you feel like you could take on the world– this may be it!
5. Apologies are no brainers
Let’s be honest, we all screw up at some point. If you’re both comfortable being the first to apologize it’s a good sign.
6. You don’t think about leaving when discussions get heated
Marriage is about working together to keep the relationship strong– this means handling difficult conversations and arguments without wanting to throw in the towel.
7. You trust your partner 100%
This means that there is no jealousy when your partner goes out with their friends; mentions their ‘work-spouse’ or their ex comes up in conversation. Obviously ex-talk can bring up some icky memories, but it’s important to be sure you are both over any old flames.
8. You recognize effort is mandatory
Some people will tell you that true love is effortless. They are lying to you. Relationships are hard work, and marriage is no different. The best part though? It’s totally and completely worth it! How awesome is it that you get to grow as a human with your biggest cheerleader and best friend?
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9. You’re financially stable(ish)
While you obviously don’t have to be a millionaire to get married, you should be fiscally responsible as a pair, and that means being able to openly communicate about all your joint and personal money stuff.
10. You enjoy your alone time
You recognize that you each have hobbies that are unique to you and that’s okay. Being able to spend time away from your partner not only gives you something to talk about but also keeps things exciting.
All that said, do you think you’re relationship is ready for marriage?