One of the best things about being a Maid of Honour or Best Man is getting to plan the Bachelorette/Bachelor party. Let’s be honest, you probably started planning your friend’s ‘big’ day long before they were even engaged and now, it’s your time to shine. Here are some things you may want to avoid when planning a Bachelorette/Bachelor party.

1. Not having a plan: Unfortunately, ‘just going to the bar’ is not an acceptable plan for your best friend’s bachelorette. The biggest mistake that friends make is assuming that going to a bar and drinking will be enough. But this isn’t your run of the mill night out – make sure you go the extra mile for your friend, they would do the same for you!

2. Not budgeting: Before you decide where to go and what to do, make sure you have a budget in mind. Talk to the other members of the bridal party and anyone that might be attending and see what they are willing to spend on the party. Since they will also be paying for a portion of the bride or groom’s cost make sure you factor this in. It sounds boring, but the budget is crucial to planning a great bachelorette because you want everyone to have fun without worrying about making rent that month (or worse, not showing up at all).


3. Not considering the bride’s wishes: It’s great if you want to surprise your friend, but they should at least have some input on what the party looks like. For instance, if the bride or groom isn’t a big partier and you plan the whole night around clubbing – you might end up with a disappointed friend. An easy way to ensure that they have a say while at the same time are surprised is to simply ask them a series of questions (bar v. cottage; weekend away v. big night out etc.) and then use their answers to craft the perfect party.

4. Taking/posting too many pictures: In the age of Instagram and Snapchat, it is almost impossible for someone to have a night out without putting all of the pictures online. But this can quickly get out of hand if guests don’t know what is okay to post. It’s probably not a great idea to have a picture of the bride getting a lap dance or sitting on the bathroom floor at the end of the night. Respect your friend and maybe keep some of the more risqué moments between the bachelorette attendees.

5. Getting too rowdy: While this might seem like the point of a bachelorette party, getting too rowdy can also be a big mistake. If you are planning the party, then half of your job is making sure the bride or groom has a good time and gets home safe. That is a little more difficult if she ends up holding your hair at the end of the night.

The biggest thing to remember when planning a Bachelorette/Bachelor party is to make sure the bride or groom is having a good time. As long as your friend is having fun (and still makes it home in one piece) you’ve done your job.